Wearing a bathing suit should be a fun and freeing experience. Social culture sometimes says otherwise. Be kind to yourself and others, no matter what New England beach you hit up.
I find this to be an interesting phenomenon. Could it be true?! Are their some women who are more attracted to a guy that looks like he doesn't try too hard? Is a softer guy a little less intimidating and seemingly less self-absorbed than they buff guy who works out and watches his carbs?
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